The most passionate kiss is the French kiss. Also called “French kiss. Do you know how to French kiss properly? Use these tips to improve your French kiss.
What is a French kiss?
First of all, it is important to know what exactly a French kiss is. It is an erotic kiss where when the kiss is given, the mouth is slightly open so that the tongues can touch and move against each other. There are several ways you can use your tongue in this process.
Relative to a normal kiss, it takes much longer and often only happens in sexual contexts.
Preparation for the French kiss
For a French kiss, you both need to be in the mood. You don’t want it to come across as rushed or wrong. Take your time and wait for the right moment. Moist and soft lips are ideal. If you have dry lips make sure you have lip balm or drink water beforehand.
Of course, fresh breath is also important. Stinky breath is quite a turn-off. Avoid eating or drinking anything beforehand that makes your breath smell bad, such as coffee, garlic or potato chips. Brush your teeth beforehand or take chewing gum or a breath mint to keep your breath nice and fresh.
Beginning French kissing
In most cases, French kissing comes naturally. French kissing starts with ordinary kisses on the mouth. So don’t go straight into her mouth with your tongue.
Build it up slowly and carefully open your mouth. If she does the same you can start French kissing and otherwise continue with regular kissing. You can then try again later and find out soon enough if the moment for the French kiss is there.
French kissing the moment
Now comes the moment: how should you tongue kiss? When the moment has arrived and you both have your mouths partially open start with some gentle and sensitive touches with your tongue. To do this, slowly enter her mouth a little bit with your tongue. She will also try to seek out your tongue.
When you have found each other’s tongue you start playing with it gently. You can pass the tip of your tongue along her tongue. Find a balance together to make the right movements with your tongue. Some like it wilder and others like it quiet and gentle.
For example, you can make slow circular movements around her tongue or gently push your tongue against her tongue. By no means go fully into her mouth with your tongue.
Take your time to explore what you like and arrive at the best French kiss. Don’t go too fast and don’t make the same movements all the time. Everyone is different so it differs what someone likes.
Also when you are done don’t stop abruptly, but build it up slowly. Start tongue kissing slower and slower instead of stopping all at once and removing your tongue immediately.
Lastly, stay with your partner with your lips against her for a while to end it nicely.
Tips on tonguing
To make your tongue kiss even better, we have some tips on tongue kissing that will help you step by step.
Start with just kissing
A French kiss always starts with a “normal” kiss. So don’t start French kissing right away.
Not too much saliva
Pay attention to your saliva while kissing. You don’t want mucus running out of your mouth. Make sure you swallow away the excess saliva.
Keep breathing
Don’t forget to keep breathing. While kissing, breathe gently through your nose. If that fails, you can also pause briefly to breathe.
Use your hands
Make kissing even more intense by using your hands. Place your hands on her waist, shoulder or head. You can also now gently pull or caress her toward you. For example, gently caress her neck or hair. Above all, do not let your hands hang along your body.
Change technique
Once you are French kissing, alternate between different techniques. Go from soft and sweet kisses to some wilder and more powerful ones. Also alternate your speed. Keep it exciting and your partner will feel surprised.
Read the body language
Pay close attention to your partner’s body language to see what she likes. Recognize signals where you see that she is comfortable and likes certain movements.
Don’t clash
Be careful not to clash your teeth. Not only is this weird, but it can be painful.
Relax your tongue
Keep your tongue relaxed. A hard tongue doesn’t feel good.
Exercises to make tongue kissing even better
Practicing French kissing without actually doing it with someone will not be the same and therefore we do not recommend it. The best exercise to practice French kissing even better is simply doing it in real life. Try new things and keep practicing French kissing, this will only make you better. Practice makes perfect. As you start kissing more often you will also see that you get better at it each time and create your own style.
Don’t have a partner yet and looking to date women for French kissing? Then check out our dating section French kissing sex date and who knows, maybe you can start practicing your French kissing soon.
A French kiss can create many different emotions. A “right” way to French kiss is just what you and the other person like. There is no real ‘right’ way, but you can make it as pleasant as possible. Everyone is different and therefore kisses in his/her own way.